Recently I had the opportunity to spend the better part of an afternoon and evening with one of my best friends. We played golf, got rained on and then enjoyed a few drinks and a relaxing conversation over dinner. We got caught up with each other on just about everything going on in our lives, family, travel plans and how we were enjoying this season in our lives since neither of us are no longer working full time. At the end of our time together we both remarked how much we enjoyed catching up with each other.
I was reflecting on this when a Facebook friend, posted the following about a group of men that he’s developed a friendship with over the years.
I’ve reprinted his post in the hope that it might inspire you to be more intentional investing in cultivating and keeping friendships.
Friendships matter a lot. I’ve found that the older I get, and the busier life becomes, the easier it is to neglect deep friendships (I’ve been guilty of this far too often).
That said, I’m learning more and more about how important it is to have deep friendships in our lives. Friendships in which we are fully known, fully loved, and fully challenged.
To have this kind of friendship requires the investment of consistent time together. For the past two years, this group has been meeting together on a monthly basis to support each other, pray for each other, challenge each other, and to cheer each other on.
We’ve had several dinners together with all of our spouses.
We’ve taken trips together. We’ve spent time learning from leaders from the generation that has gone before us. We’ve made memories that will last a lifetime together. We’ve developed a circle of friendships in which each of us is fully known, loved, and challenged.
What I want to point out is that none of the things I just mentioned happened by accident. They happened as a result of a lot of intentionality.
If you’re going to go the distance in your leadership journey, you’re going to need great friends. To have great friends, you have to intentionally invest in deep friendships regardless of the cost.
If you don’t have a group of friends that fully know you, love you, and challenge you to be the best that you can be, you’re missing out. Do whatever it takes to find and develop those types of friendships!
It will be one of the most life-giving things you do!